Cultivating More Positive Emotions

by | Nov 23, 2016 | Social-Emotional Learning


When I worked as a counselor in a behavior classroom I would meet with the students every morning. Often the students would often come in with sad or frightening things on their mind. It was difficult for them to focus on school when their minds and bodies were full of worry about a parent, or a concern about something they’d seen on the news.

So, I started a practice with them which I called Mindful Moments. I would ask them to remember something positive about their life. A time they laughed with someone, a time they felt strong, a time they played freely outside. This practice shifted their attention on the positive things in their life, and they were calmer and more able to focus during the day.

the limbic lobeThe benefits of shifting our attention toward positive thoughts and building up an “emotional bank account” isn’t just a nice psychological metaphor. Science backs it up.

Just last month, a new study in Nature Neuroscience shed new light on the relationship between positive and negative memories – memories that are processed in the amygdala, a cluster of neurons deep in the brain. By inhibiting the activity of either fear- or reward-encoding neurons, the researchers found that they could affect the formation of memories in mice.

“They found that when [fear-encoding] neurons were inhibited, mice could not form fearful memories, and when [reward-encoding] neurons were inhibited, they could not form positive memories.

The researchers also discovered that each population of neurons can inhibit the other: When they stimulated activity in the reward neurons, activity in the fear neurons was suppressed, and vice versa. This suggests that the brain constantly balances activity between these two populations of neurons.

“Ultimately what we have is a seesaw between positive and negative,” Kim says. “It’s highly speculative, but anxiety and depression symptoms may be the result of an imbalance between these two populations.””

We Need Both Positive & Negative Emotions

The idea of balance is borne out in the psychological literature, as well. While psychologists such as Dr. Gottman have recommended an ideal ratio of 5 good experiences to each bad one, a 2005 study in American Psychologist found that the “tipping point” was 3 to 1. That was the minimum needed, the authors suggested, for a healthy and happy life.

But there’s a role for negative emotions, as well. According to the author of the tipping point study, Barbara Frederickson,

“Negative emotions…are necessary for us to flourish, and positive emotions are by nature subtle and fleeting; the secret is not to deny their transience but to find ways to increase [the quantity of positive emotions]. She recommends that, rather than try to eliminate negativity, we balance negative feelings with positive ones. Below a certain ratio of positive to negative, Fredrickson says, people get pulled into downward spirals, their behavior becomes rigid and predictable, and they begin to feel burdened and lifeless.”

It’s all about balance. And mindfulness is where it begins.

SEL Starts with Mindfulness

Yoga Calm SELAs we’ve noted before, mindfulness is the foundation for the full range of social and emotional skills we’re called to nurture in children. After all, you can’t even begin to develop emotional intelligence without first having basic awareness of your thoughts and emotions. This awareness then leads to understanding and compassion for ourselves and for others. We learn to listen and respond appropriately to our emotions and this affects our behavior toward others.

This is also why yoga is such a good match for SEL. It, too, rests upon mindfulness.

Frederickson, too, notes that mindfulness may also help us cultivate more positive emotions, helping keep our emotional bank account properly balanced. As she said in a 2009 interview in The Sun,

“One way [to cultivate more positive emotions] is to be aware of the present moment, because most moments are positive. We miss many opportunities to experience positive emotions now by thinking too much about the past or worrying about the future, rather than being open to what is.”

In these anxious, uncertain times, we could all benefit from this – and helping the children in our lives develop the emotional intelligence that will help them stay strong, resilient, and capable.

Learn more about how to bring positive emotions into your classroom, home and therapeutic sessions with Lynea Gillen’s free Social/Emotional Learning (SEL) webinar this Sunday, November 27, 4-5pm. In it, you’ll learn three stress busters for you and your students, how to develop SEL skills with preK-12 youth, how to deal with disruptive behavior and how to develop Grit – emotional strength and resilience. Register now!

Brain image by OpenStax College, via Wikimedia Commons;
kids image by Todd Fahrner, via Flickr

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